In part two, I discussed how allowing someone to become too familiar with you can severely limit your current and future employment goals.
Now, I would like to discuss an example of a profile I located on MySpace and what future employment prospects this individual may expect. The profile is real, but the name has been changed to protect his identity.
“Justin” is currently in a doctoral program for chemistry at a well-known East Coast university. Justin is twenty-six-years old and, according to his MySpace profile, is an excellent student and enjoys music of all kinds. His hobbies are reading, videography, and playing his Xbox.
On the surface, Justin seems to be a bright person that may go far once he graduates and obtains that Ph.D. He has obviously committed himself to years of education and hard work to get into a doctoral program. He also seems to have several healthy hobbies that allow him to relieve the day’s stress. But what happens when we look closer at his profile and examine the other information on his site.
Odds are Justin is still a little immature because he wanted to make his MySpace site cool for his friends when they visit. So Justin has added a few photographs with comments. For example, Justin has included a photo with a caption stating that he is an avid gun supporter and enjoys target practice with his friends. Nothing wrong with being a card-carrying NRA member.
However, the picture he chose of himself during one of these target practice sessions, upon closer examination, appears to be in the backyard of someone’s house. I can clearly see Justin holding a gun in one hand and a bottle of liquor in the other. In the background, there is a table with what appears to be a hookah, commonly used for smoking herbal fruits, tobacco, or cannabis. I’m sure our chemistry student and his friends were smoking Butera Royal Vintage tobacco blend in their water-filtered hookah.
Upon further examination of Justin’s site, I was able to dig deeper and find more information about Justin from his “friends’” sites, which were linked to Justin’s site. One friend wrote about Justin in detail, telling a very colorful story about how Justin got himself arrested for disorderly conduct and discharging a firearm within city limits.
Sure, his friends may have exaggerated some of the information on these sites, or Justin may have simply been in the wrong place at the wrong time. Some would argue that Justin has a right to do whatever he wants to do on his own personal time, as long as it is legal and does not harm others.
But, it’s not about personal rights. It’s about appearances and the impressions you leave for others to view and learn about who you are, whether they are true or not. Sure you have the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, but Justin’s future employer has an obligation to make the best decision as to who is hired based on the information available. If Justin, or anyone else for that matter, makes information publicly available either on-line or in casual conversation, then that information may come around and haunt him sometime in the future. In this case, Justin should not be surprised if, upon graduation, he finds his past catching up with him in an interview.
With today’s Generation “Y,” also known as Millennials, entering the work force with their casual lifestyle, informal methods of communications, and propensity for posting every detail of their lives on social networks for the entire world to see, it is common for business relations to become stressed.
Greek philosopher Thucydides said, “It is a general rule of human nature that people despise those who treat them well, and look up to those who make no concessions.”
So if you want success, try to keep as many people as possible in the dark about your personal life. The world will thank you and look up to you for it.